Recently I was skimming through Leadership Education by Oliver and Rachel DeMille, looking for areas in which to improve my mentoring techniques when I came across pages 212-224 about “The Top Eight Mistakes Parents Make with Scholar Phase”. Considering the fact that all my children are now in Scholar phase (varying levels) I figured this was a good place to study again.
Here is a list of the mistakes:
- Treat them like teenagers, instead of young adults.
- Start them too early.
- Give them too much non-academic work.
- Give them too little non-academic work.
- Promote a typical modern teenager social life.
- Ignore the written agreement.
- Don’t have them mentor younger siblings.
- Do not clearly outline ownership.
I am very pumped about the paradigm shift that is happening in our home. I have spent so much time studying what to do that I have overlooked some of the things not to do. Over the next week or so I will be sharing more of what I have discovered in addition to what I have read, giving more of a “how this worked in my home” look at the mistakes many well-meaning mentoring parents make with their youth. I should know, I’ve made a few of them myself!